More Friends
Many of us today are getting busier than ever before, while our human need to be close to other people continues. Are there any ways to win more friends?
Many of us today are getting busier than ever before, while our human need to be close to other people continues. Are there any ways to win more friends?
To make friends you have to start to think about others and not only your own benefits. But do not try hard to fit in, just be yourself and be more open.
Go out more and spend less time on the Internet! Go to more clubs or other social gatherings and be more social. When you join clubs, you do lots of activities together so you will make friends easily. Do not be afraid to talk to more people, just find something in common to talk about, like sport events, the media, celebrities, movies, conversations with topics relevant to everyone. Find people with similar interests as you so you will have something to talk about. Do volunteering to meet new people there.
Say "hi" to everyone. Whenever you meet someone, be the one to initiate a conversation. Walk up to them and introduce yourself. Find something interesting to chat about. Do not be shy, but try to have common things about each other. You should be well prepared by trying to add some knowledge and know what to talk to people around you.
A better way to make new friends is with the help of your current friends who can introduce you to newer friends and then it keeps going.
However, the quality of friends is more important.
Friends who let you down
You think she is your best friend, but every time you are down, she is not there for you. In fact, she does not care much about you at all. You feel like you are just a replacement for a friend of hers who has left. Since she is basically the only friend that you hang out with, you are not sure if you should keep on being her "friend" just so you do not feel lonely, or you just stay alone.
First things first, if you do not feel like you can trust some people enough, they are probably not even considering you enough to be a friend of theirs, because they probably feel the same way. If they do not care about you, then go to find some other ones that would care for you and lend you a shoulder to cry on. Do not depend on just one person. Sometimes not everyone is as caring or generous relationship wise. Sometimes the best person to rely on is mostly you yourself. But it helps when you can vent. So find someone you can trust and vent to that will not disclose information that you say to those people whom you were talking about or are having problems with.
Maybe this is only a one-way thing. She might not consider you as her best friend. Right now this "best friend" of yours just seems like someone to hang out and "hehe haha" with. From the looks of it this friend is draining all your positive energy. Such people are friends on a superficial level if it is just to hang out, for meaningful deeper friendship, look elsewhere if they are not prepared to listen to and share your problems with.
Seriously "best friends" are not people you come by everyday. Time is NOT the only factor that makes a person your best friend (just because you have hung out with them "like" forever does not automatically make them your best friends). With best friends, you know each other in and out and both accept each other's strengths and weaknesses/faults. Best friends are the kind that you know you can rely on and the kind that you feel comfortable telling your troubles to
All friends, close or not, will let you down. It is a matter of consistency. If they consistently let you down, it is time to permanently say goodbye.
